Tragic news came to me today,
Heartbreaking, confusing, cold morning news.
And you were there,
Without asking, you were there.
You show up, always,
Support, always,
Love, always.
Kind, strong, selfless, and true,
You are a better person than me.
Your love brings tears to my eyes,
Tears I don’t deserve,
Love I’ve always dreamed of.
You are more,
You are so much more.
Ana bahebic ya habibi, ana bahebic.
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Monday, August 4, 2008
Because you kiss me in your sleep...
Friday, October 26, 2007
I'd totally wear Facebook's class pin
Sorry to cross post/self-promote, but this is exciting, and I've already written it up, so just go here, you know, if you want to:
24% of Americans would rather date Facebook than you.
And, fyi, the site is going through a soft launch. It's going to look better in a week or so.
Friday, October 19, 2007
(un)Strategic Ambiguity
Wow, Rhonda unleashed a whole mess of hormones flying around the halls of HON. All of these relationship posts are either going to get someone dead or get someone laid. I love it.
Updated because I just re-read something absurd mathgimp wrote.
Original rambling:
Here's the way I see things.
There's no one right way for societies to manage relationships. Arranged marriage, polygamy, polyamory, open marriages, friends with benefits, all have folks on one side singing their praises, and folks on the other swearing it will lead to the downfall of society. Neither is right. Just about everything works for someone (or some culture) somewhere, and just about everything is a disaster in some situation somewhere.
Every single type of relationship has problems associated with it. Of course committed relationships have problems that non-committed relationships don't. The stakes are higher, it's harder to walk away, problems get blown out of proportion by apocalyptic thinking, you have to manage and balance sex and emotions and personalities and life goals and that of course breeds stress and a little bit of the crazy.
In a moderate piece of self-disclosure, the reason why Rhonda and I started talking about this, and the reason why she wrote the blog, is because I've talked with almost every person I've ever had a romantic relationship with over the past two weeks. They all offered ostensible reasons for getting back in touch. They all came with explicit or implicit assurances that they didn't want to get back together.
Every time one of those boys called, I called Rhonda and said "boys are stupid!!!!" Even if they don't want to get back together - so the commitment problem goes away -- it fucks with my head a little, not only because I still feel something in one way or another for all of them, but because it's extremely difficult to judge other people's motives and intentions. Why are they calling me?? What are they thinking?? And because it makes you play the "what if" game. It feels like it's been a constant string of the ghosts of relationships past come to visit, exposing what my life would have been like had I been a little bit different, or made a few different choices.
If we were born 20 years earlier, or in rural America, or were socially conservative, I would have married the first one of the aforementioned guys who wandered into my life. Because I wasn't, relationships become a lot more confusing. The reason why boys are stupid and girls are lame is because we live in a subculture that fosters ambiguous relationships. It's acceptable to a) randomly hook up with people b) have friends with benefits arrangements and c)have platonic relationships with folks of the opposite gender. How do you choose?
The tables have turned in terms of a lot of gender norms -- I know plenty of women who just want no commitment hookups, and a ton of guys looking for long-term relationships. Men and women both have the option to choose careers and education over immediate procreation. It's great, and liberating, but it also increases possible interpretations of any given behavior that the opposite sex does at any given time about a thousand fold. THAT is why boys are stupid. You have no fucking clue what ANYTHING they do means. (And, of course, why girls are lame, too).
We have a delicious smorgasbord of sex and romance at our finger tips. And I wouldn't change it. We can experiment, we can be independent, we can self-actualize now, commit later, but of course it causes bitterness and resentment and misunderstanding. It's also fun and exhilarating and teaches you stuff about yourself. Once you get to the commitment part, that shit's easy - even if you go a little crazy, at least you're in it together.
End original rambling.
Update 1: Mathgimp, bizarrely, writes: "Non-committed relationships don't make anyone act crazy, unless they were crazy to begin with." This needs about 17 caveots to make it kind of make sense: non-committed relationships with no sexual or romantic dimension don't make people act crazy. If you want to sleep with them, or they want to sleep with you, all bets are off. Most of the time, people in non-committed relationship act like raving lunatics driven mad by hormonal uncertainty.
A Math Proof I Don't Understand
There's actually a lot of proofs I don't understand, but this one references an XKCD comic, which I discovered through you folks and have learned to love. For other Web-comic goodness, I highly recommend Penny Arcade. It's mostly about video games, but still funny. If you're willing to read through the archives, I'll explain any posts you don't get. In other Web/tech news, I'm going to start blogging for Scientific American on Monday as a part of their companion blog to the 60 Second Science Podcast. Expect to hear about more things I think are awesome, but don't entirely understand.
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
For My Ladies, and My Guys (we don't discriminate)
Ladies, gentlemen, what's the deal? It seems as though something might be in the water, or the moon is changing, or global warming is finally effecting our psyche. Why you ask? Because so many of my beautiful, intelligent, and kick-ass friends are giving up on love. In the past few weeks, the phrases "boys are stupid" and "girls are lame" have appeared numerous times in emails and text messages sent to me and in many conversations I have had with my anonymous pals.
Yes, I recognize that I too am a jaded 20 something, and yes I am guilty of thinking that boys are stupid on a regular basis, but kids, I'm ready for a change. No longer am I gonna bitch about how 2 different men I dated stole from me (if you read this, I think you suck, both of you SOB's), nor am I gonna continue to make fun of the guy who honestly thought he had a chance of sleeping with me by telling me that I have no ass and that my nose reminds him of the "who's" from "The Grinch" (ok, you are an idiot and no woman wants to sleep with you).
My darlings, you are looking at a woman in the process of change, and I'm bringing you with me! So here's what we're gonna do. I want you to each think of something positive a man or woman has recently done that changed your mind about the opposite sex or gave you a glimmer of hope that not all people out there are heartless bastards. If someone made you smile, or laugh, or orgasm, I want to hear about it!
Ok, I'll start. My friend Eggie gave me a birthday present for my dog Jasper, who turned 6 years old last week. This was one of the most thoughtful gesture ever done for me. Eggie gives me hope that genuine men exist in the world. Nice guys are gonna finish first!!!!!
Alright my friends, don't be shy, show me what you got. Let's try to stop hating eachother for at least a day.
Saturday, October 13, 2007
Intimate Relationships with Artificial Partners
Hello, blog reader. If I'm guessing right, you're most likely a twenty-something. I also imagine that many of your friends are entering serious relationships, and many are probably getting engaged and married. And you most likely have that nagging thought in the back of your head - what if everyone finds someone - except for me??
You may have even tried to formulate some sort of safety plan - a promise with a close friend promising you'll marry each other by a certain date in a desperate attempt to prevent a lifetime of loneliness (Tommy, remember you have until 2016 until you have to settle for me). Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but if your backup plan finds some love they're going to drop you like a HOT POTATO.
But don't despair. A Dutch scientist has completed his thesis on the ultimate "Plan B" in case you never cross paths with your soul mate.
Robot marriage. That's right. People will fall in love with, marry, and possibly most importantly, fornicate with robot spouses.
You might have some trepidation about spending the rest of your life with a robot. You may have a few questions. Dr. David Levy and I have some answers for you.
Robot Marriage FAQs
This is great news! How soon can my robot and I get married??
Not so fast, my android admirer. Dr. Levy warns that it will take time for our legislation to catch up with our desires, so it will most likely take about 40 years until robot marriage is legalized. But hell, better late then never.
I'm sorry - how long is this going to take? Can you be a bit more precise?
Hey, I don't want to speculate, but if I were you, I'd get to Massachusetts around 2050.
2050! I can't hold out that long.
Well, if you can't live that long without love, and you're willing to put out before marriage, you're in luck. There are companies that already sell realistic sex dolls, and Dr. Levy notes, "...it's just a matter of adding some electronics to them to add some vibration." That shouldn't be too difficult, my dear doctor! In fact, says Henrik Christensen, founder of the European Robotics Research Network, expect robot sex by 2011. Don't worry, reader, you only have four more years of cold showers.
What exactly are the benefits to robot marriage?
I'm glad you asked! There are numerous selling points for robot marriage.
1. It may reduce human prostitution.
2. It may cause a drop in infidelity. Explains Levy, "...[i]nstead of a woman saying, 'Darling, not tonight, I have a headache,' you could get 'Darling, I have a headache, why not use your robot?'"
3. Possible reduction of pedophile activity (I'm going to leave this one alone).
4. And, the main benefit: to make people who otherwise could not get married happier.
Who can't otherwise get married?
Dr. Levy really spells it out for us: "[P]eople who find it hard to form relationships, because they are extremely shy, or have psychological problems, or are just plain ugly or have unpleasant personalities."
Is he talking about you, lonely reader? Maybe it's time to start saving up for your very own robot.
Won't it be....ahem....a little embarrassing to be married to a robot?
It doesn't take long for new courting techniques to catch on. Just think of dating sites - 20 years ago they were unheard of! Dr. L gives his scholarly assurance: "[O]nce you have a story like 'I had sex with a robot, and it was great!' appear someplace like Cosmo magazine, I'd expect many people to jump on the bandwagon."
If you have any more questions, you can read the entire article here. And a big thanks to Ms. Ruhi Lou for bringing this important news to our attention.
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
Why I Hate/Love TV
So Fox has a new pseudo-reality show called "Anchorwoman." In it, Lauren Jones, former Miss NY, model, and Price is Right girl, with no journalism experiences takes over as the lead anchor for Tyler, Texas' KYTX. Now I know I'm only a tech writer who blogs, so my journalistic bar may be set a bit lower than the New York Times', but this is just frightening to me. Also awesome. I was super-pissed reading about the Rolling Stone reality show to find a new reporter (who also had no journalism background or writing experience), but, as I'll never be a TV anchor, I'm kind of looking forward to the premiere tomorrow night. So what? Much of it already is."
From the Fox site:
"Jones, the former Miss New York and über-vixen, packs up her Versace dresses and heads to Tyler to start a new career. Can this bombshell make it as a serious reporter? Will she save KYTX, or make it the laughingstock of the Lone Star State?"
From the AP report:
"In the meantime, this show (and KYTX) are doing their part to make a laughingstock out of local TV news.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
Cheap High
2 Excedrin washed down by a can of Diet Coke. I feel euphoric right now. Seriously, weird smile on my face. Love for humanity in general.
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